Category: Life

Can’t Sit With Us

Chemps and I

As many of you may know, my little Chempedak has just entered Primary school this year. It was much of an adjustment for me as it was for her. No actually, I think the new school transition had a higher impact on me. Kindergarten was always a comfortable and fun learning environment, and while there were episodes where she came home in tears, I knew it wasn’t anything a comforting hug and a chat couldn’t cure.

But school… well…school’s different, and kids can be so mean.

Her first few weeks went by rather well. Then her first encounter with real life occurred.

Chemps has a best buddy in her class, and most of the time, they go about exploring the new routines of daily school life together. Then one day, her friend fell ill for several days and so Chemps found herself a bit lost.

On one of those days when her friend was absent, I picked up a rather glum looking Chempedak from school.

Me: Hi! How was school today?

Chemps: Ok.

Me: You don’t sound very happy.

Chemps: Damia didn’t come to school again today.

Me: Ohh.. I see.

Chemps: Just now during recess, I didn’t have anyone to sit with, so I wanted to sit with these other girls from my class. Then one of them yelled at me “Go AWAY!”
I said to her I just want to eat with all of you, then she said “You cannot sit here!”
I didn’t do anything to her, Mommy.

Right there, at that moment, my heart crushed.

We’ve all met them before, the mean girls. Perhaps we were once one of them. But never did I imagine a seven year old would already have that sort of attitude. Heck when I was seven, the entire class ate together under a tall tree by the field and after which we all played catch with much carefree joy. No one cared who could or couldn’t sit where and with whom. We just enjoyed the fun company.

I didn’t know how to explain to my daughter simply because I couldn’t understand it myself. Too young for them to be cliquish and yet it happened. Where did that little girl pick up on this? Older siblings? Cousins? YouTube? TV? Parents? Where?!

Me: Well, that wasn’t very nice of her. It’s ok, as long as you know you did nothing wrong, you have nothing to worry about. I’m sure there are other nice kids you can sit with. Where did you sit after that?

Chemps: With some other girl. We shared our food! It was nice!

Me: That’s great. Don’t have to waste our energy on nasty people. We just be nice to everybody ok?

Sigh. I guess I can only protect her for so long….

May Allah protect my children from the evils of this world and the hereafter.

 

A New Chapter

It’s been a while.

Almost a year actually, since I last wrote a blog post. My blog used to be my therapist. Life, joy, stress, expectations… almost everything that went on in my head and heart, was poured out through my fingertips to the pages of this digital diary. Except, instead of keeping secrets, it was there for all to see.

But, I was completely aware of that, and being the transparent (and absolutely predictable) person that I am, I didn’t quite mind. I got to share my thoughts, ideas, and even receive feedback and suggestions on various things. I got to learn. Best of all, I made many MANY friends through this little blog of mine (Hollaaa laydeees, you know who you are!).

Then things got busy, and I shied away from the blogging life. I simply couldn’t find the time. Between juggling the family, office shenanigans, my part-time party planning business, and just life itself, I barely found time for ME.

But within this past year that I have been absent (from this beautiful life-as-a-blogging-momma), a lot has changed. I left the corporate world, concentrated more on Party Fluff, ventured into a whole new adventure as a Coway Health Planner, but most importantly, found the time and balance to become the wife and mother that I’ve always wanted to be (or at least actually work towards it).

For those who have been my wonderful followers from days of yesteryear, thank you 🙂

For those who have just discovered that I am a closet blogger, welcome 🙂

Thus, here begins a new chapter of Doodles Of My Mind.

Bismillahirahmanirahim.

H&M : Achievement Unlocked!

CEEEELEBRATE GOOD TIMES!! COME ON!!

*crowd goes wild*

Before you congratulate me on winning any contests whatevernots, I didn’t 😀

Nor is this the sort of “spent-more-than-rm1000-on-a-single-receipt level of achievement either.

Today I went to H&M to look for pants and you know what? They have my size!! And I don’t mean in the children’s department!! *thrilledbeyondallreason*

Previously, whenever I went to H&M, my browsing and purchases would be limited to the kids section. Luckily their teen clothing selection is just as stylish. However, bringing a set of clothes sized 12-13 years to the fitting room kinda makes you feel… meh… on the inside. Once in a while, I’d wander over to the ladies section but even the smallest size would be a tad too big.

However, today!! Ahh..today glorious today!! I passed by the pants on the rack and thought… hmm.. let’s give it a go. And voila! IT FITS! You have no idea how happy I was!! Like..this rarely happens!! MAK SERONOK NYAH!! Hahahhaha!!

So I got myself pants (plural please, they were on discount :P) and went around the other aisles and EGADS! What’s this?! Dresses come in my size too!! #addtocart

So what does this mean? Have I grown (sideways)? Doubtful. Has H&M shrunk their sizing to suit the more petite Asians? Are their cuttings different from before? Oh heck, I honestly couldn’t be bothered! *happy*happy*happy*

#proceedtocheckout #poketrabaksikittapitakpe #esokcariduitlebihsikit #adasesiapanakbuatpartynganPartyFluff #COWAYpunada #sayajual

Hahhahahaha 😀

Nothing beats retail therapy!